“What was I thinking; I must have had a brain fart.”
And then something funny happens and you stop and think how different life would be if it wasn’t for those little ones that grow up to be big ones and we say,
“Yes, this was the best thing I ever did.”
When you have those bad days and are turning grey headed, because of your choice to have kids you can read these:
15 reasons for having kids and know that it wasn’t a mistake.
The grey hair is worth it, (after all there is always hair dye).
1. You learn that after pregnancy everything is a breeze. Sometimes this can be the pits with the morning sickness, feeling like a whale out of water, and giving birth. Look at it this way, there is nothing like feeling of the new life moving around in your body.
When it comes to the birth you learn what pain really is.
When you are chasing that little toddler later;
After you have taught them to walk and talk and run into the chair breaking your little toe the pain is a walk in the park after experiencing childbirth.
You are ready for anything that comes down the road.
You are no longer bothered about those GYN visits anymore. Nothing about your body is private anymore and that is OK. You can pee with anyone watching.
2. You learn that you can survive without sleep. You now appreciate every time you get 10 minutes to close those eyes to rest. Sleep is beautiful! Before those kids you thought,
“Hey, I can sleep anytime; let’s go party.” You learn to be grateful for the little moments of silent’s.
3. You learn that you can stomach about anything that comes along. After experiencing the entire poop and vomiting things; there is No smell that can bring you to your knees.
You are strong and can withstand any single friend coming over and getting totally shit faced and vomiting all over your front yard. Or even missing the toilet after drinking too much.
4. You learn having good sex doesn’t have to take that long. You learn to have sex in your sleep some nights and this can be done in the dark and fast, before you hear a kid call out, “MOM, I had a bad dream.”
5. You are in better shape than you ever thought possible. Those biceps keep getting bigger every day after caring around a 20 pound kid. Even though you can’t stand up straight anymore because your hip is out of line from holding some of the weight on it when you need a little relief.
Who needs a wrist band to let you know how many miles you have walked in a day? Some nights you walk those miles in your sleep, because the darn baby won’t sleep or you are chasing that toddler around all day trying to save their life after they try to pull the dresser over on themselves.
You never knew that you could run so fast. You could win the 50 yard dash in the Olympics.
6. You have learned how to outsmart another person. As a parent you have to learn to stay one step ahead of those little people. You see them heading in one direction and you know what they are after. You know that you can get there before they do.
All that practice for the 50 yard dash kicks in. You are like super woman! You fly through the air. Mission accomplished.
Beats the crap out of a trip to the ER.
7. You learn how to use your imagination. There are times when you need to referrer or come up with a solution to any given situation. Maybe it is a time out box for bad behavior or two little ones trying their best to knock one another down for the count.
When all else fails with this behavior you can always get out the handcuffs and handcuff them together to fight it out. (Trust me this does work.) For some reason it takes all the fun out of the fight.
8. You learn the fine art of multitasking and get REALLY good at it. You can cook a meal, set the table, and hold the baby without falling over a 2 year old while walking around getting this all put together.
9. You learn that there are more uses for pots and pans than cooking with them. Always keep your pots and pans that are not breakable in the bottom cupboard to entertain the little ones. They like playing with them more than their toys you paid umpteen bucks for. (Beware of the noise, they can get very brutal when playing with them.)
10.You learn to keep up with times, so you don’t become an old fart. With time; toys are always changing, fashion changes and music changes. You name it and progress keeps moving.
Without kids you don’t have a prayer in hell of keeping up with these changes.
With kids you don’t have a choice, if you want to stay ahead of these little and big people as they grow you learn to like the music and fashion. Well, maybe not all of it!
11.You learn how to pack. Whether you are going to the grocery store or on a trip there is always extra clothes, snacks, bottles, etc. you better bring with. You a so good at doing this you are ready for any emergency that may come up.
12.You learn that the show home isn’t near as much fun as the home that looks lived in is. A house full of love and fun is much more interesting and exciting than if your world looks perfect. Perfect is a dull place to be.
13.You learn to remember when you were a teenager. When those little curtain climbers become teens it brings back your own memories of those years. This is a good thing if you want to stay ahead of them.
The key is not to ever let them know what your teens years where like until they have moved out of the house and are on their own.
By the way when it comes to the word hormones, take that word out of your vocabulary. Teenage girls have enough excuses for their behavior, don’t give them this one.
14.You learn what unconditional love really means. You finally understand that you can love this person with all your heart, but it is OK that you don’t have any use for their actions.
And if you feel like knocking the crap out of them; this is OK, just learn to walk away and save that for another day.
15.You learn patience’s. We all have to learn in our own way and we are going to make mistakes. (Actually I called them learning experiences.)
Maybe they’re having trouble putting a small train on a track, clothes on a doll or having their heart broken for the first time.
We as parents can be there for them with patience and understanding as they grow and learn like we did.
To me it is amazing and beautiful what we can learn from being parents. I know that parenthood is not for everyone and I do admire the people that choose not to have kids, because they know they would be lousy at it. My hat goes off to them for knowing themselves like they do.
For the parents out there it is the most rewarding thing in the world and if you play your cards right, maybe when you are old and feeble, because of the love you gave your kids without question they will be there for you in your time of need.
Last of all when you have those bad days with raising kids and are pulling your hair out and turning grey with what is left; while they are sleeping in their bed go in and take a good look at that sweet face and your heart will feel with love. If not there is always tomorrow.
What have your kids taught you and would you change things if you could do it over again?