“I always plucked a thistle and planted a flower where I thought a flower would grow.” — Abraham Lincoln – Planting the right seeds works the same way that positive thinking does. So pluck the thistles of life with a dose of positive thinking and you will see the flowers bloom day after day.
How we react to any given situation makes a difference whether you are going to have a good day or not so good day. For me I’ll take that good day every day, so I react in a positive way every chance I get.
Take for example you are driving to work and traffic is the pits. Now you can get bent out of shape or you can sit back enjoy the slow pace. Your actions in this situation are going to make a big difference in your day and most likely the drive home too.
George Bernard Shaw puts it this way: “People always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, they make them.”
Sometimes we have no control over circumstances, but we do have control over how we react to them with our actions.
Say hubby comes home from work and he has had a pretty rough day. He is not in the best mood. Now you have 2 choices you can react to his mood or you can be understanding and give him the space he needs, but let him know you are there if he needs to talk.
If you react to his mood, this may very well lead to a disagreement or fight, but by giving him his space all well work out and you are going to be enjoying those flowers that you just planted, rather that walking on the thistles and hurting your feet.
Looking at any given situation on the positive side is always going to bring positive results. It doesn’t matter if you are dealing with a debt collector or a crying baby. It all comes down to a moment in time, why let it mess up your whole day?
Now you are saying, how do I keep from reacting?
Think first: I know this can be a little tough, but with practice you can accomplish it. Every time you go to open your mouth and let those words out, think about what you really want to say. Feel with your heart, by putting yourself in the other persons shoes and think with your mind before speaking. Plant those flowers.
Realize when in public there are stupid people out there. We all know you can have that driver that thinks they are the only one on the road. Feel sorry for them for being so stupid rather that reacting with anger.
Those unhappy employees you have to deal with, rather than frowning back, give them a smile. There either going to love the smile or think you are stupider than they are. Either way it really doesn’t matter, because you’re having a good day. You’re planting flowers again.
As Kenny Rogers would say, “Know when to walk away and when to fold”. At times there really isn’t anything to say, because of another’s action and the best thing you can do for yourself is remover yourself from the situation.
Take the first exit you see and keep going, don’t look back!
Know when to listen: We all have those times when we need someone to listen to us. We are not being negative, but in need of a sounding board. By not reacting to this kind of behavior you are being a friend in deed.
This person is going to feel safe with you and remember you as a good listener without judging them for their feeling.
Another example of how actions can affect your day and even your life.
Let us compare the human mind to a farmer planting on very fertile land. He has 2 seeds. One that is corn (which would be the positive in the human mind) and one that is a thistle (the thistles would be the negative side of the human mind).
Which would you plant on your land?
I am comparing the human mind with the land, because the mind, like the land, doesn’t care what you plant in it. It will return what you plant, now do you want to plant thistles when you react or do you want to plant the corn with your actions?
I go for the corn, because by planting the thistles with your actions is only going to bring you pain. I don’t know about you, but pain is not one of those things that I look forward too. I choose to ‘opt out’, what about you?
The person, who doesn’t care how they act or react to any given situation, doesn’t know where they are going and their thoughts are of confusion, anxiety and worry. They are planting thistles and become frustrated, fear the pain from anxiety and worry.
The human mind is far more fertile, far more incredible and mysterious than the land, but it works in the same way. It doesn’t care what you plant, good actions or negative reactions to any situation. It is going to return to you the same reactions, positive or negative.
What it comes down to is; the human mind is the last great unexplored continent on this planet. It contains riches beyond our wildest dreams. It will return anything we want to plant.
So, start planting positive actions and reactions to any situation and you will reap the benefits from those actions.
Smile when someone frowns at you!
Don’t be afraid to laugh and have fun with your actions!
When something negative happens, find the positive and opportunity in it.
Enjoy that drive in heavy traffic; you are getting practice slowing down.
Show compassion for that unhappy employee, family member or friend.
Spread the love with your actions!
What are you doing with your Actions and Reactions: Planting corn and flowers or planting thistles?