Life can seem as though it is a shipwreck at times, but when we look for the positive in the troubled waters we will find the sun shining brightly on the horizon.
We all have those days when it feels like the boat is sinking, and some fool forgot to put the oars in the boat, and the life jackets weren’t even given a thought before setting out on the journey.
We get to the point where it is a choice of either sink or swim. Me not being a swimmer I have to keep a positive attitude at all times by picking the people I associate with carefully, because I sink like a rock in water.
How do I do this when adversity strikes my Bow?
You invite a lot of people into your life. Every day we meet new people and become friends. Or maybe it is your family, parents, sibling, cousin or aunts/uncles.
When we met new people we can get a feel from that first impression, but remember not to judge to quickly or you could be throwing one of your oars out of the boat. Sometimes it takes awhile to really get to know a new person and see what is really in the inside. It is what is inside that really makes a different. (Looks can be deceiving)
When it comes to our family be careful not to judge them by the past. As children we remember all the little fights we had with them as kids playing in the back yard. This is not who or what they are now. Yes, we may think different than they do, even if we grew up with the same parent, but this is OK. See them as an adult and look at the positive things they bring to your world. Siblings can be the best friend you are ever going to have when you concentrate on the positive about them, rather that the negative part that you had trouble with as a kid. There love is unconditional, so love and respect them for who they have become as an adult.
Some people go. Some of these people will always be in your life and then again some will find it is time to go in another direction.
Friends do come and go in everyone’s life. You have the friends you went to school with and then you lose contact with them. You have the friends you get to know through your kids. Then there are always the neighbors when you move into that new house. Friends from your church or other actives you may get involved in.
As you sort through these new and old friends, remember to keep in touch with the ones that are there for you when in need and the ones that you are there for when they need you.
When it comes to dating and falling in love, enjoy this time and have fun getting to know a possible spouse for your future. Don’t rush this relationship. Making a life time commitment to someone takes time and wise choices. Face the fact that boyfriend/ girlfriends are going to come and go before you find the RIGHT one.
Some people join you. Then you have the people that do decide to join you. You have the same interest, and things just seem to fit together with them like fine china in a hutch or tools in a tool box.
These are the people that you probably want to stay in touch with and enjoy. It just feels right and you are all rowing the boat together as you sing along. The world is like sun shine on a beautiful day.
Some laugh with you. Some are fun to laugh with when you need that in your life, making you happy on a cloudy day.
We all need a little silly in our life at time. Do be careful that these aren’t the friends that can never be serious when you need them to be. Are they going to stand up in the boat and capsize it when you just need them to sing alone and row the boat with you?
Some don’t show up. Then you have those that you thought maybe you could count on that forget to even show up. Especially when you need them the most.
With these kinds of friends you need to go the other way and learn from the experience and don’t look back. They are all about themselves and their egos are as big as the day is long. They are sure to capsize the boat or throw the oars overboard, when they can swim, but you can’t and there are No life jackets aboard.
Some stay and help you clean up and those usually are the uninvited ones. They are the faithful ones that you didn’t even know where coming, but you find you can always count on them to be there when the day is done.
These are the important friends. Whether the boat is moving along in clear water or the storm is throwing you all around they are there to help you navigate those fun times and those rough times.
They are the swimmers who won’t leave your side until you are on that shore safely. They will even give you there life jacket if necessary.
Life is for celebrating when you have the right people and the right attitude.
This is why it is so important to pick the people you want in your life that can help you shoot higher, laugh louder and look forward to tomorrow. Find people who aim high, think positively, genuinely are about you and do make you laugh. And you do the same for them
When we have mutually caring relationships, we understand what psychiatrist David Viscott meant when he wrote, “To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
Have you ever had that party where the food just didn’t turn out the way you wanted it too? That is like inviting the wrong people to the party.
I have sibling that I know longer see or have anything to do with. Some are alcoholics and very toxic to me. I do not need negative people in my world; they are like a party crasher. (I do leave the door open if they ever do change, I would listen.) It is ok to pick your family instead of being stuck with one.
If you’re having trouble seeing life as a party and only seeing it as a shipwreck, check out who you are hanging out with. Once you get the right party goers coming to your life party, the fun begins.
When that boat starts sinking, you can sing in the lifeboat, because you have all the RIGHT party goers with you and happy people love to sing. And the swimmers will risk there life for you if need be.
So get crackin’ and work on that party list before the shipwreck.