Now days raising kids is a whole new ball game. Is this a really good idea?
I read this article that refers to how to ask a kid to clean there room. This is what they say you should teach your kid, so they show respect and are not rude;
The kid says, “I’m, not going to clean my room”.
Instead mom teaches the kid to say, “I don’t want to clean my room, because I’m too tired right now. May I please do it tomorrow?”
Give me a freakin break. We all know that that room is not going to get cleaned. You can bet your next pay check that the kid is going to come up with a new excuse tomorrow.
As for misbehavior some moms say they offer rewards for better behavior; Using ice cream, books and inexpensive toys.
What are you thinking? I don’t know about you, but if my parents had used reward for my misbehavior I would have collected rewards like a squirrel stores up food for the winter.
Here is what my mother taught me. (Part of this is from an unknown author).
To appreciate a job well done. “If you’re going kill each other, do it outside – I just finished cleaning the house!” I learned to take care of my own problems and handle any situation that came my way.
Religion. “You better pray that comes out of the carpet.” I learned that when things looked pretty bleak and you thought your life was about end, praying helps. Hey, I’m still here, so it does work.
Time Travel. “If you don’t clean up your act, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week.” I’m one that like’s to enjoy every moment, so you can bet I cleaned up my act. Who would want to miss out on a week of their life?
Logic. “Because I said so, that’s why.” I learned that some battles you just don’t want to pick, because you know that it is a loss loss situations.
If you do something stupid there is price to pay. “If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you’re not going shopping with me.” I learned to think twice, so I wouldn’t break my neck, but in the process I learned to face fear a few times and hope for the best.
Foresight: “Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.” When they invented panty liners I was first in line to buy them suckers. I always have clean underwear now.
Irony: “Keep crying and I’ll give you something to cry about.” I learned to be tough and only cry when I knew it would do me some good.
Osmosis: “Shut your mouth and eat your dinner!” I learned that peas up the nose DOES NOT work. For some reason they do not go into your digestive system.
Contortionism: “Will you ‘look’ at the dirt on the back of your neck!” This came in real handy after I had my own kids. They still think I have eyes in the back of my head.
Stamina: “You’ll sit there ‘till all that spinach is finished.” As a mother myself I can sit through any soccer game, dance recital or boring actively my own kids may be in without blinking an eye.
Weather: “It looks as if a tornado swept through your room.” I learned that the weather can get ugly, but as long as you come out alive that is what counts. Having good insurance is always a plus.
Physics Problems: “If I yelled because I saw a meteor coming toward you would you listen then?” Maybe it is true that the sky could fall someday, so I need to keep an eye on that. So far, so good…
Hypocrisy: “If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a hundred times – Don’t exaggerate!!! I learned to be who I am and nothing more. When you lie or exaggerate it is too hard to remember what you said last.
The circle of life: “I bought you into this world, and I can take you out.” Yes, you better enjoy every day; you never know what’s waiting around the corner.
Behavior modification: “Stop acting like your father.” If you really don’t like how your relatives act or your friend, stop acting like them and be who you want to be.
Envy: “There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do!” Be thankful for your parents, because none of them are perfect. Leave home at an early age if it gets too bad.
Anticipation: “Just wait until we get home.” Always be on good behavior when out if public, you don’t want to end up in the loony bin or jail.
Receiving: “You are going to get it when we get home!” Be careful what you ask for you might receive it.
Medical science: “If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they are going to stick that way.” There are some things the body was not meant to do.
Think ahead: “If you don’t pass your spelling test, you’ll never get a good job.” I was lucky enough to be good in math.
ESP: “Put your sweater on; don’t you think I know when you’re cold?” Others may think they know you better than you know yourself. Just go with them if need be. You can always take that sweater off later.
Humor: “When that lawnmower cuts off your toes, don’t come running to me.” Shoes are a good thing, other that when you’re swimming.
Becoming an adult: “If you don’t eat your vegetables you’ll never grow up.” After becoming an adult I wished I hadn’t eaten those veggies. Being an adult isn’t always fun, stay a kid as long as possible.
Genetics: “You’re just like your father.” Sometimes there isn’t much you can do about some things.
Roots: “Do you think you were born in a barn?” Does this mean that I have something in common with Jesus?
Wisdom of Age: “When you get to be my age, you will understand.” I’m not as old as dirt yet, so I’m still waiting for that wisdom.
Justice: “One day you’ll have kids…and I hope they turn out just like you!” This did happen to me so take this one very serious.
In many ways I do know my parents weren’t as dumb as I thought they were back then. They did instill value and morals in me.
But at the same time they threw in fear.
If you are having trouble with your kids being a smart @%^ and disrespecting, just maybe you need to put some fear in them.
Stop and think about life it’s self. As adults we don’t go out and break the law, because we know we could end up in a court room and in the slammer.
Is modern day parenting really putting fear in today’s kids?
So if you want the smart mouth to stop but the fear in them. Don’t say, “Honey, please go clean up your room.” Say, “It is time for you to go clean up your room, or I will move in a kid that really appreciates YOUR ROOM.” End of story!!!!
Instead of giving them a $500.00 birthday party… how about letting them know if they don’t clean up their act they won’t make it to their next birthday…
Teach them the meaning of LIFE. Otherwise you may end up with them never moving out of your house or moving back in when they learn about the real world.
So are you putting a little fear in your kid’s life, or making them believe life is just a joy ride?