This is a guest post from Anda Tudor
Public Relations Manager at Freelance Coaching
This is the third time my boyfriend canceled our date this month citing work as an excuse. I know work is important, hello I work too! But seriously cancelling at the last moment twice in a row is taking me for granted, I wouldn’t have done that if I were a man.
What would have I done?
Dressed in my latest Lanvin over lacy lingerie, I open a bottle of beer and think about how I would have treated my girlfriend had I been a man.
The first thing I would do is to try not to cancel a date, plan in advance or maybe I would cancel a date then show up unexpected and whisk my girlfriend away for a weekend trip to Paris.
As a girl envisioning what a man should do, I believe that more than materialistic gestures, it is the thought that counts.
Cancelling a date if you completely have to, is okay once in a while but showing up at her door with pizza and wine (and not solely with the intention to lure her to bed) will win over hundreds such cancelled dates.
As a guy, I would concentrate on small things in life:
Making her coffee just the way she likes in the morning when she’s running late
Give her a foot massages when she gets back home
Steal surprise kisses
Cuddle with her
Grab her favorite ice cream flavor on my way over to her house
Understanding is of utmost importance, and it works both ways. Second comes loyalty, why do so many men cheat, and that too with horrible, readily-available, desperate girls?
I will give my girl reasons to trust me and honestly, the fact that I’m with her is because I want to be with her.
This is where most guys go wrong; they tend to get love from one girl and sex from another, meanwhile wronging them both.
I would communicate with my girlfriend, tell her what I expect from her and ask her what she expects in return.
Men are often considered to be in a relationship for sex, not just for guys but for girls too, sex is important. Guys perhaps are more public about it. It’s startling to know that 80% of women have never experienced orgasm while having sex, and as a guy I would read my girlfriend’s body and learn about her pleasure points. Watching your girlfriend wither to your every touch is such a turn on.
I wonder why most guys don’t do it.
Of course, I am not going to be a perfect boyfriend. There will be arguments, name calling (which is really a big no no), fights but I believe half of it can be solved, in fact completely avoided if people can listen to each other.
Now as a woman (the real me is still a woman remember?), I know that we tend to talk a lot, go off topics, change our minds but if a man is patient with us and willing to listen and understand, we are ready to mold things for the better.
In retrospect, I guess I would make for a good boyfriend. What about you ladies? What would you do if you were a man?