Romantic relationships can be like trying to put a puzzle together at times. Sometimes we can use all the help we can get.
I know for myself my relationship with my hubby had its waves, some small and then there was the tidal wave that I thought was going to suck us under.
Here is how the story went.
It was Christmas time and he had asked me what I would like. I being the person I am, told him, ‘a cheap watch would be nice.’ I could use a new watch pretty bad. Guess what I got for Christmas, ‘a cheap watch’, you know the K-mart blue light special.
I looked at it and thought, ‘Wow he really doesn’t care about me.’ I could tell that he just picked it up on a whim and gave NO thought to it at all. It really hurt.
My thought was, ‘If you really care about someone or love them you put a lot of thought in a gift for them. This action on his part, probably was a big red flag, but I sure am glad I let that flag fly by unnoticed.
He proceeded to ask me what I thought, (wrong question). I told him the truth. “It was a cheap watch and you put NO thought into it.”
The tidal wave hit, his responses was, “You said you wanted a cheap watch so that is what I got you.” He could not see that I wasn’t looking at the watch per say, but the fact that he didn’t put any thought into my gift.
We ended up in a BIG fight and he was calling it done, over, we are through!!!
I spent the next 3 months trying to keep my foot in the door. And let me tell you, my foot was getting pretty battered from that door!
Anyway we did get back together and I am very glad that I hung in there and so is he. (Actually he is very grateful).
I wished I had the information back than that there is today. You can bet I would have used the text messaging or even e-mail. Hey, at times I was pretty desperate. Did a lot of wishing, praying and hoping and Racked my brain and heart for ideas to keep my foot in the door.
When I first read “Text the Romantic Back” I thought of this fight we had. I would have killed for this kind of information and help from Michael Fiore back then. This would have been really cool and besides I wouldn’t be walking around with a bum foot today. (Just kidding around with you on the foot thing.) Michael gives many text messages and ideas to use in his book.
An example and what he says about eyes:
They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul. Eyes are a great opportunity to go “deep” with a compliment and talk about the depth of the person you’re with. Think about the color, shade, the sparkle when text messaging your love.
How they look at me.
How I feel when you look at me.
How beautiful they are.
The curiosity in them.
How they smile when you smile.
How the edges turn up when you smile.
How I feel like you’re looking right into my soul.
How cute it is when you look to the side to think.
How they talk to me without you saying a word.
How they’re the window to your spirit.
How they’re so focused on what’s in front of them.
This is just a small example, because in the book there is nothing that Michael misses and you can use them on either male or female. Got to love that!
This sure would have helped me back in the day. Trust me I do understand how it is when you love the lady or guy and you would do anything (just about) to get them back. He’s got text messages for getting them back, lighting a fire under that old spark and anything else you may need help with.
“The Magic of Making Up” is another book I could have used desperately. Here is a sample letter that T. J Jackson has all written out to use if your lady/ guy decide it is time to break up, but you really love this person and don’t want to break up!
Just wanted to drop off a short note to let you know that I am totally okay with your decision to split up.
Saw it coming for awhile.
I wanted to also let you know how sorry I am for carrying on with that girl at the party last Friday. It was totally disrespectful to you. I apologize that I hurt you.
Oh! Some good news! I had a fantastic change in fortune and luck the other day. Funny timing…huh?
Love to fill you in…but in the future. You and I both need some space right now.
I can see where this letter would really work, can’t you? Stop and think when we don’t have something that is when we always want it the most. They call this human nature!
I don’t want to boggle your mind with too much information all at one time, but if you are in need of getting the love back, or lighting that old fire with the one you are with I have the lighter fluid that you need.
You can also go to this link Relationship Tools for more help in having the happiest and most fulfilling relationships you ever dreamed possible.
If you use these tools I would appreciate some feedback on how they are working for you and that love of your life. Leave me a comment or you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
May happiness always be there for you!!!