How to Get Your Lover Back the Easy Way.

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Romantic relationships can be like trying to put a puzzle together at times. Sometimes we can use all the help we can get.

I know for myself my relationship with my hubby had its waves, some small and then there was the tidal wave that I thought was going to suck us under.

Here is how the story went.
It was Christmas time and he had asked me what I would like. I being the person I am, told him, ‘a cheap watch would be nice.’ I could use a new watch pretty bad. Guess what I got for Christmas, ‘a cheap watch’, you know the K-mart blue light special.

I looked at it and thought, ‘Wow he really doesn’t care about me.’ I could tell that he just picked it up on a whim and gave NO thought to it at all. It really hurt.

My thought was, ‘If you really care about someone or love them you put a lot of thought in a gift for them. This action on his part, probably was a big red flag, but I sure am glad I let that flag fly by unnoticed.

He proceeded to ask me what I thought, (wrong question). I told him the truth. “It was a cheap watch and you put NO thought into it.”

The tidal wave hit, his responses was, “You said you wanted a cheap watch so that is what I got you.” He could not see that I wasn’t looking at the watch per say, but the fact that he didn’t put any thought into my gift.
We ended up in a BIG fight and he was calling it done, over, we are through!!!

I spent the next 3 months trying to keep my foot in the door. And let me tell you, my foot was getting pretty battered from that door!

Anyway we did get back together and I am very glad that I hung in there and so is he. (Actually he is very grateful).

I wished I had the information back than that there is today. You can bet I would have used the text messaging or even e-mail. Hey, at times I was pretty desperate. Did a lot of wishing, praying and hoping and Racked my brain and heart for ideas to keep my foot in the door.

When I first read “Text the Romantic Back” I thought of this fight we had. I would have killed for this kind of information and help from Michael Fiore back then. This would have been really cool and besides I wouldn’t be walking around with a bum foot today. (Just kidding around with you on the foot thing.) Michael gives many text messages and ideas to use in his book.

An example and what he says about eyes:
They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul. Eyes are a great opportunity to go “deep” with a compliment and talk about the depth of the person you’re with. Think about the color, shade, the sparkle when text messaging your love.
How they look at me.
How I feel when you look at me.
How beautiful they are.
The curiosity in them.
How they smile when you smile.
How the edges turn up when you smile.
How I feel like you’re looking right into my soul.
How cute it is when you look to the side to think.
How they talk to me without you saying a word.
How they’re the window to your spirit.
How they’re so focused on what’s in front of them.

This is just a small example, because in the book there is nothing that Michael  misses and you can use them on either male or female. Got to love that!

This sure would have helped me back in the day. Trust me I do understand how it is when you love the lady or guy and you would do anything (just about) to get them back. He’s got text messages for getting them back, lighting a fire under that old spark and anything else you may need help with.

“The Magic of Making Up” is another book I could have used desperately. Here is a sample letter that T. J Jackson has all written out to use if your lady/ guy decide it is time to break up, but you really love this person and don’t want to break up!

Jane,
Just wanted to drop off a short note to let you know that I am totally okay with your decision to split up.
Saw it coming for awhile.
I wanted to also let you know how sorry I am for carrying on with that girl at the party last Friday. It was totally disrespectful to you. I apologize that I hurt you.
Oh! Some good news! I had a fantastic change in fortune and luck the other day. Funny timing…huh?
Love to fill you in…but in the future. You and I both need some space right now.
-John

I can see where this letter would really work, can’t you? Stop and think when we don’t have something that is when we always want it the most. They call this human nature!

I don’t want to boggle your mind with too much information all at one time, but if you are in need of getting the love back, or lighting that old fire with the one you are with I have the lighter fluid that you need.

You can also go to this link Relationship Tools for more help in having the happiest and most fulfilling relationships you ever dreamed possible.

If you use these tools I would appreciate some feedback on how they are working for you and that love of your life. Leave me a comment or you can email me at debbie@happymakernow.com
May happiness always be there for you!!!

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  1. Misunderstandings are very common in every relationship, husband and wife are no exception. Most of the times, wives have to use the more direct approach if they want something from their husbands, because husbands aren’t exactly mindreaders! My dad normally asks my mom what she would like for a special occasion, and really confirms it if that something is what she really likes to have.

    • Debbie Bills
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      Hi Felicia,

      Your dad was a smart man. You are right, guys do not read minds, my hubby tells me that many times, so I come right out nicely and tell him what is on my mind.
      I learned my leesson.
      Thank you for sharing and blessing to you,
      Debbie

  2. Hi Debbie,

    I love this one! I’ve been there as well, when you want the relationship to work out, so you try just about anything. But one thing I have learned now that I am older, some of those relationships are just not meant to be. I know I’ve said things, or done something that I’ve regretted, and wished I could take it all back. You do want the other person’s forgiveness. Sometimes we do shoot ourselves in the foot, when we don’t look at the big picture. I like that sample letter from T. J Jackson. Interesting twist on things! Thanks – great information as usual.

    • Debbie Bills
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      Hi Cathy,

      Thank you Cathy. Yes, that simple letter from T.J. Jackson does say a lot in a few simple words. Sure could have used that years ago in my situation. You are right there are some relationships that are not meant to be. With mine I am sure glad that we worked through the hard times. it has made us stronger.
      Thanks Cathy for sharing and blessings to you always.
      Debbie

  3. Great tips per usual Debbie. It’s much easier to deal with relationships when we look at it
    without referencing past NO’s. These NO’s have duped us into feeling insecure in life and love. If we are to become the prime cause of the effects in our life, and if we are to lift ourselves above adverse internal conditions to effect real productive change, then we must create a new relationship with adverse circumstances.

    • Debbie Bills
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      Hi rob,

      You are right. It is so important to get over and leave behind those past NO’s. When the No’s are left behind we can find the real person we are meant to be. It frees us for a wonderful life.
      thank you rob for adding to the post with your wonderful deep thinking and wisdom.
      Blessings to you always,
      Debbie

  4. Steve Bills says:

    See. There you go again showing me how special you are.
    I know we have discussed the watch Christmas a few times and every time the subject comes around the corner it feels like I get hit between the eyes and bit on the behind at the same time for being as stupid as I was. Yes you are right and I am so sorry for what I did, how I did it and how I acted. I’m sorry about the foot too, but believe me I am so grateful for you and especially your foot. LOVE YOU your hubby.

    • Debbie Bills
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      Hi Steve,

      You are making me laugh like you do so many times. The foot think, hey I was milking that for everything I could, did it work?
      You where not stupid, as you have explained “You got me what I ask for”. Besides let us be honest here. At that point and time my love for you was deeper for you than your love for me. You have made up for this many times over.

      I do forgive you for OUR misunderstand, after all for a misunderstanding to happen there has be two people involved. We have come a long baby and it is a wonderful journey and one I am happy I am on.

      Love you lots and thank you for being you,
      Debbie and I feel very honored to be your wife.

  5. Hi Debbie,

    Nice post my friend. Creating harmony and peace with the person we love is one of the best ways to get back the person we love. When we stop all the negative and resentment feelings, peace, love, and harmony return to the relationship.

    Thanks for sharing Debbie

    • Debbie Bills
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      Hi Dia,

      Thanks for sharing your knowledge. It is appreciated. We do have concentrate of the positive when it comes to life and our relationships. One thing that I always try to practice is that in a relationship there is never a right or wrong, because everyone see any situation different and we can learn from each other.
      thanks again and blessings to you,
      Debbie

  6. Occasional quarrels with your spouse can be quite common, but it is up to the couple if they would want to just let it pass and move on, or if they would want to make it into a bigger issue and make things worse. Admitting if you’re wrong (if you’re really wrong) is the right thing to do, no matter how much your pride bothers you about it, as it isn’t much of a big deal rather than not to be in speaking terms with your spouse.
    Thanks for sharing this nice post!

    • Debbie Bills
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      Hi Syliva,

      I am with you the silent treatment just does not cut it. If you have a problem talk it out or let it go. When it comes to being right or wrong the ego can get in the way. As for me when it comes to love the ego needs to go underground. It is there only to stop the love from coming through. We all have those occasional quarrels it is just a matter of learning to fight fair. There is a right way to fight and a wrong way.

      Thank you Sylvia for sharing and by the way I love the picture on your blog. I did leave a comment, but not sure it went through. let me know if you would please. Would appreciate it.

      Blessings to you,
      Debbie

      • “There is a right way to fight and a wrong way.” Nicely put, Debbie! 🙂

        Glad you visited the blog I’m promoting 🙂 Don’t worry about the comment on the blog, yours was put on Twitter. Thanks!

        • Debbie Bills
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          Hi Sylvia,

          Thank you for putting it on Twitter. Yes, there is a right way to fight. When we fight with a positive attitude and don’t worry about winning we can fight fair. leave the ego out of the fight and you can both be a winner.
          Thanks again and blessings to you, Syliva,
          Debbie

  7. dissertation says:

    Good work! Thanks a lot for sharing.

    • Debbie Bills
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      says:

      You do writing for others. When you learn how to answer a comment, maybe I’ll give you a try. The key to life is to give and you will receive. Good work just doesn’t cut it in the comment department for bloggers, but sense I am a nice person and I can except stupid people here is the link you were hoping for.
      Debbie

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