How Important Is The Sex Of Your Baby To You?

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 You just found out you are pregnant…Let the good times roll!

Motherhood is going to be wonderful, but is it a boy or girl?

With today technology in a few months you can find out what the sex of this special little baby is going to be.  The question is, “Do you want to know” or “Do you want to be surprise.”

I know for me that first one really didn’t make any difference, other than having a big brother of my own; I always felt it was nice for a girl to have a big brother.

For me…. it was a girl and I was happy that she was healthy and of course being the mommy; she was the most beautiful baby the world had ever seen.

What happens when you are really set on one sex? 

You could drive yourself nut.

Here is what happened to me when I had my second buddle of joy.

I have to say, “I was really wanting that baby boy”.

I did not get that boy!

Was I disappointed?  ‘Only for a second.’

You see she was born breech!  Thank heaven she was only 4 pounds and 2 ounce.  No she was not premature.

When they first told me it was a girl I wanted to cry and then I realized that she was not crying and my heart stopped.

I didn’t care whether if it was a girl, boy or a baby goat I just wanted to hear her cry.

Finally I heard her cry and it was the most beautiful moment in my life.  It didn’t matter anymore, as long as she was healthy and strong.

(By the way the Doctor billed me for a circumcision, because we were so sure it was a boy)  I told him that he did too good of a job!

Sex isn’t the most important thing when it comes to having a new baby.

  • Having a healthy baby is more important.
  • Having a happy baby is more important.

When you get down to it there are advantages and disadvantages to either sex.

It’s like this….

  • Having boys you have to be very careful when changing that diaper, you could get a shower you really didn’t want.
  • With girls never teach them about teen hormones, they will use it against you ever chance they get.
  • Boys can really bring in the dirt, where girls are more aware of the dirt.
  • With girls you can go to the bathroom and know that it is safe to say, “I don’t have to worry about falling in.”
  • Boys as they get a little older can eat you out of house and home, where girls do leave a few leftovers most of the time.
  • Boys have more toys that you can trip over and really take out a toe or two.  The dolls are a little softer to trip over.  (Ok, depending on the doll.)  But those trucks, Lego’s and cars can kill you.
  • Girls are mouthier, where boys just say, “Whatever”.
  • Girls do end up costing you more; those weddings can be a killer.  You always thought you were saving for retirement until the little princess says she is getting married.
  • Now boys when they get married you wished they would come for a visit on the holidays, but they usually end up at their in-laws house.  Have to keep that wife happy after all.

When I was born my mother told me she cried, because I was a girl.  She already had 3 girls and just the one boy.  I think I would have cried too.

But when I got to the teen years she told me, “God knew what he has doing when I was born a girl.”  (I was a bit feisty, ok maybe quite a bit feisty).

Does it really matter what sex your child is?

There is always a reason and sometimes we have no idea why we may have all girls or all boys.  And some people have 1 of each sex.

For me I ended up with 3 girls.  When I was pregnant with my 3rd the doctor asks me if I wanted to find out the sex.  I told him no, because maybe I wouldn’t take as good of care of myself (you know eat right and all that) if I knew it was another girls.

My only thought was, “God if this has to be another girls, let her be bald headed”, because I really don’t want another head of hair to fix.”

Yeh, he got that one wrong; she had more hair than the other 2 and trust me, they were not lacking in the hair department.  (The oldest one had her first hair cut at 3 months.)

After being a single mom, I am very glad that I had 3 girls and no boys.  It would have been hard to teach them the many things that fathers teach their son’s.  Maybe someone knew what they were doing when I ended up with the 3 girls?

Now I am happy to say I have 5 granddaughters and 3 grandsons.

I have to admit those boys seem to be easier.  Dude, they don’t really seem to care about anything, they just go with you.  Have to love that.

Regardless of what you want and what you get, remember all kids want; is love, boundaries and guided. (This mean hugs every day, even when they think they don’t want or need them)

So, now I would like to hear your take when it comes to your kids!

Are you happy with their sex or do you wish you could trade them in for a new model?

(No this trade in policy does not count when we are talking about teenagers.)  Trust me, NO one wants them.  It is up to you when it comes to raising kids to wade through those years.  (And sometimes you have to swim like crazy to get through those years.)


P.S.  By the way if you have boys and girls, which do you think is the easiest when it comes to raising kids?



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  1. Dear Debbie –

    After three boys, I have to be honest.

    I was secretly hoping for a girl.

    The 4th boy has given me so much joy! (Like all of them)

    When I finally got a girl grandchild, I realized I had no idea how to relate to a little girl. No experience.

    Until she became a teenager.
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    • Hello Corinne,

      I know what you mean, i was secretly hoping maybe after 2 girls my third would be a boy. At least I did come a little more prepare with her (I wasn’t my second) I had a girls name picked out.

      I also know what you mean when it comes to those grand kids. It took me awhile to learn how to handle those boys. They are completely different.
      It is good you remembered your teenage years. That sure helps!
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  2. PS

    Although noisy and mischevious, boys are easier to raise. And they love their Moms!
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  3. Darlene with BlogBoldly says:

    Hi Debbie!

    My daughter is pregnant with her first child and I SO wanted it to be a girl. I had already purchased quite a few precious little girl clothes when she found out “It’s a boy!” haha

    She had always said she’d be happy either way..

    But when she found out it was a boy, she was ecstatic.. and I thought.. you know, that’s all that matters; that she’s happy. Now I find myself just as excited as she is that her baby is a boy.

    Now, I can’t wait to meet him. He’ll be a Christmas baby!

    ~darlene 🙂

    • Oh, How exciting for you Darlene. Do you have any boys? I always wonder what they are going to look like. What do you think about the Christmas arrival?

      As for the little girls clothes, guess you are going to have to hold onto them for always. Maybe she’ll have a big brother for the little girl. Next time…. Maybe i am getting ahead of myself there.
      Thanks for stopping by.
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      • Darlene, how can I make a comment on your blog, do you not take comments? Sorry to ask, but when it coomes to some of the little buttons I can over look them. (Maybe i better get the glasses check.)

  4. Hi Debbie,

    Interesting topic of discussion 🙂

    Well, for some people, sadly enough, the sex of their child is important, and we have many cases in our country where some parents even go the extent of aborting their child if it’s a girl! Yes, it’s sad but true.

    Speaking of which, for me, the sex of my child was never important, and we never got it checked for both my kids. All we ever wanted was a healthy child, whether it was a boy or a girl. I guess because I’ve both girls I might be a little biased towards them, but I think daughters are any day better than sons, or perhaps I say that because I was one and have them too! Never know how it’s like to have boys in the house – though I do see my other family members with sons and the havoc they play, especially when the are young. Each one to their own.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend 🙂
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    • Hi Harleena,

      That is very sad that someone would abort their baby because of the sex.

      I have enjoyed my girls too. I am finding out with grandchildren that the boys are different. And yes, you are right boys are a bit rougher than girls are. My oldest grandson is 4 and I can see the difference in how he plays.
      I was like you as long as they are health it does not matter. I believe that whether you have a boy or girl, that is the way it is suppose to be.
      I have a sister that likes boys more than girls. She has one of each and she always favored the boy. I am so glad that my niece does not hold it against her. She once told me, When my oldest was born she gave birth to a boy 5 weeks earlier. After my daughter was born, she said, “It is a good thing you had the girl and I had the boy or I would have given her back.”
      Guess to each there own.
      Thanks for sharing and I wishing you a wonderful weekend also.

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