How Do You Want Your Kids To Remember You?

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 Stop Driving Yourself Crazy with the Dreaded To-Do-List, MOM

You wake up in the morning and ask yourself, “What do I have to do today?”

Then you realize this is going to be one scary day.

The 8 year old has swimming at 8:30 this morning and gets done at 10:00.

The 5 year old has swimming at 10:30 this morning and gets done at noon.

The 20 month old needs his nap at 1:00 or he is going to have those horrifying meltdowns.

By the time he wakes up it will be 3:00 in the afternoon or later.

“Wow I need to go to the grocery store”…you say to yourself.

I need a miracle, sense I forgot the 8 year old has a softball game at 8:00 tonight.

Ok, I have a plan; grocery store after the baby wakes up then I’ll have time to make dinner before the softball game. (It’s going to be a late night for baths and the night routine.)

How did I get myself in this kind of ass kicking schedule?

As parents do we have too much on our to-do-list and where and when does it stop?

I know… maybe I can put a cancel anytime button on my to-do-list.

The only way to make it stop is finding a balance.  Maybe these ideas can give you the hope you have been looking for.

First…

Decide what activities are really important for your kids to be in.  How many activities are too many when it comes to raising kid?  Fine a couple of things your kids like to do.  Maybe try one new thing at a time.

Ask yourself why…they are involved in all these activities. In today’s world; modern parents are suppose to give their kids every opportunity possible. If you don’t or aren’t doing this, ‘you are a bad parents.’

Am I destroying myself and my kids with my crazy to-do-list?  You can tell by the way you approach your day. If you are not looking forward to it and your kids are not in a hurry to leave the house you most likely are destroying your good day and theirs too.

Or just maybe you can slow down and learn from your kids.  As Wayne Dyer says, Change your thoughts, and you change your world.”

Sharon Silver says on this blog, “POPSUGAR MOM” Watch your child at play, at rest, eating, and interacting with others. Their100 percent focused on whatever they are doing. They play with wild abandon and seem to inhale enjoyment with every breath. There living in the moment and thrilled to be alive.

I’m sure glad that I am only grandma these days; because I look at you young mothers running your butts off day after day, taking your kids here and there and I would want to stand there in hopes I could just vaporize.

Question is…Why are you driving yourselves nuts?

I know..I know, because that is what we do these days. It’s being a good parent!

Ask yourself…

Are these the things your kids are going to remember when they become adults

Mine remember…

  • The homemade cookies after school.
  • Playing with their siblings and dancing.
  • Having fun at grandma’s.
  • The school field trips mom went on with them.
  • The books mom read them at bedtime.
  • They remember their dancing lessons; Along with the dance recitals and competing. (Yes, I was busy, but not to the point of jumping into a lake when I don’t know how to swim.)

Do you want your kids to remember you someday for all the sports and activities you let them be involved in before they were even 6 years old?

Or do you want them to remember you like this poem Mary Rita Schilke Koran wrote to her mother.

You hung my first painting on the refrigerator,
And I wanted to paint another.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
You fed a stray cat.
And I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
You baked a birthday cake just for me.
And I knew that little things were special things.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
You said a prayer,
And I believed there was a God that I could always talk to.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
You kissed me goodnight,
And I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
I saw tears come from your eyes,
And I learned that sometimes things hurt
But that it’s alright to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
You smiled
And it made me want to look that pretty, too.

When you thought I wasn’t looking,
You cared.
And I wanted to be everything that I could be.

And wanted to say thanks,
For all those things you did
When you thought I wasn’t looking.

How do you want your kids to remember you?

With your to-do list…. Which has made you cranky, rushed, frustrated, and resentful?

Or those soft kisses you gave when you thought they weren’t looking?

 

 

 

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  1. Hi Debbie,

    Lovely post indeed 🙂

    I so agree with you that most of us get so-so tied down with our to-do lists, and they are never ending! I speak because I am also guilty of having done this with my kids. I know there are times when I’d rather drop ALL work and just be with them, and I do that sometimes too, but the work is overwhelming for me at times, especially my writing projects, blogs, home, and other things.

    However, there are NO excuses when it comes to spending quality family time with your children. The time you spend with them is what they will appreciate, value and remember all their lives – not the other things. Although my kids are grown up now and they see us work and understand things, but even then I think it’s better not to live in guilt of not having spent time with them, than to think about it all the time.

    So now I’ve just kept aside a few hours when I am with them, and that means ONLY with them, and do nothing else. I find we have so much to share, and it does help us bond better. This is SO very important for every parent to remember.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend 🙂
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  2. Hi Harleena,
    Yes, those to-do-list can be game changers. Even for myself with my business and blog, I have found that there are days when my girls will call and want to know if I can baby sit my grand kids. There are times I use to tell them I had to work on my blog or catch up with other stuff I had let go.
    Not anymore, I take them time to help out and get to know those little ones. They grow so fast that ever minute I do spend with them is worth it.
    Having that one on one with the people we love is what makes for those great memories.
    Like you say there are No Excuses for putting love off.
    You have a wonderful day and wishing you always the best.
    Debbie
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