I have to hand it to you mothers today with young kids. I take my hat off to you and your bravery.
Why do I say this…
Let’s start with the so called parenting styles.
Helicopter Parenting…Putting this simple; this is parents that hover over there kids. They overprotect.
Attachment Parenting…Created by Dr. Sears; is the style of parenting that follows the theory of secure, trusting attachment to parents, resulting in secure and independent adults. Bed sharing and baby wearing are both big parts of attachment parenting. (Have no idea what baby wearing is?)
Baby-Led parenting…This style is about keeping baby close at all times, feeding on demand and cosleeping. Many think here that Dr. Spock is saying, baby is boss. Parents used this parenting back in the 70’s and 80’s. All they got was a spoiled brat that turned out being a parent’s worst nightmare when they grew up.
Natural parenting…This is living and parenting responsively and consciously, with a gentle method of discipline.
Tiger parenting…This is coming from Amy Chua’s book,(Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother). Very tough and strict on putting their kids academic career before anything else.
Free-Range Parenting…Letting children explore the world at their own pace. Not planning or organizing activities for kids.
Serenity parenting…This is like the Serenity Prayer. Emphasizes on a child’s nature more than nurture.
When I was a parent of small kids I didn’t have a title for my parenting. I just parented with my knowledge, love and gut feelings.
You also have to put up with the on lookers…
You know when you’re out in public and little Tommy decides to throw that fit. Everyone is looking at you to see what you are going to do.
Ready with their cell phone in case they have to call the police or video you, because they think you are being a bad mommy.
When my kids were small I would stand there and tell them to let me know when they were through acting like a brat, so we could find the manger and they could apologize for making so much noise in his or her store. (Didn’t have to do that to many times before they learned.) Then I would get the applause from the on lookers.
When it comes to activities…
You better be putting your kid in preschool as soon as possible or they are going to get behind all the other kids. (And you may be judged on what preschool you chose.)
And if you don’t or can’t afford a preschool you are the worse parent in the world. Your kid is going to be traumatized for life.
Sport activities are a must now days…
And this starts at the age of 3.
Give me a break, by the time your kids really need outside activates you are going to be so tired and burned out from hauling them around you’ll hope you never see another ball of any kind in your life.
I remember when my girls were in dance. Get them from school. Shovel some food down there throat and off we would go. Get home and hurry to do homework, shower and then bed. Or taking one to soccer, the other 2 to dance. Back to the soccer kid and get her and back to dance.
I’m tired just thinking back to those days. It would have likely killed me if I would have started that kind of schedule when they were 3.
Next comes the doctor….
You can’t start them on food as babies until you check with the doctor.
Excuse me… Is he the one that is getting up during night every 3 hours to feed that baby. Not so much.
If the toddler isn’t talking by the time they are 1 1/2 or 2 they better go see a speech therapists. Give me a freakin break.
I had one kid that didn’t talk, because her sisters were always talking for her. Shut the older kids up and make the little one speak if they want that glass of water.
You have to understand that one day that quite kid is going to talk and then you are going to wish he or she would stop talking.
It was your choice and no one put you down for your choice. Now days the hospital doesn’t even want to give you a bottle and formula if you choose not to breast feed.
The good old Jone’s
And of all things you are supposed to keep up with the JONE”S. If you don’t your kid is the most deprived kid on the planet.
What a crock of bull…
So how do you overcome all these eyes watching you raise your kid and judging every move you make?
- Stop Listening…
- Stop reading about parenting…
- If you have to listen and read take what works for you. If it sound stupid it most likely is.
- If it is not something you believe in throw the book in the trash.
- When on Facebook don’t believe or even worry about all the mommy’s out there that make it sound like their kids are perfect. (No kid is perfect).
There isn’t such a thing as a parenting type when you go by your values, morals and what you believe in.
Start being you and realize you are a good parent…
All that other crap makes you feel like you are the world’s worst parent.
You get what you tolerate…
What it comes down to…
If you want to listen to all the crap out there about parenting go for it, but you are most likely going to drive yourself crazy.
• As long as you do what your heart says….
• Adjust for your kid’s personality…
• Love then lots with the right discipline thrown in…
Your kids are going to be OK and you are a good parent.
Stop all the fuss and go with the latest parenting trend that is found at “The Daddy Complex.com” The CTFD method.
Which means CALM THE F*CK DOWN.
With that said, What is your parenting term Called?