Defining and Choosing to Have a Happy…Life

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Everyone has his or her own definition of a happy life.  If you want to live a happy life, you may want to model people who are living a happy life, which includes the following:

1. Wanting and enjoying what you have:

Don’t worry about what your neighbor has, so he bought a new car.  Just be grateful that you have a car and it starts when you turn the key on.  Say you have a family.  Be grateful there are people that don’t have a family.  Picture what your life would be like if you didn’t have your family.  That is pretty scary, don’t you thing?  Are you getting the idea?

I know it can suck when you have to cook dinner, because you don’t have the money to go get some fast food or go to a restaurant to eat, but hey, you have food in the house to eat. Be grateful and go cook it, even if it roman noodles.  We’ve all been there.

2. Having a loving personal relationships:

Sometimes the spouse can be a pain in the neck or the children are bouncing off the walls. When you are having those days, just stop and visualize what life would be like if these people that you love weren’t there anymore.

I have read in the paper and heard on the news when an accident happens and someone losses everyone in their family all at once.  One thing that I make a habit of doing is when I’m talking to someone in my family; before I leave or hang up the phone I always tell them I love them.  I do this because I know how quickly life can change.

When my husband leaves in the morning for work I always tell him to be safe.  I make a point to say this, because those drives to work can really be challenging at times.  He tells me that when he has those challenging times he remembers my words and stays calm. Love is patient and we always need to keep this in mind.

3. Doing what you love for a living:

This can be hard one, because we all have times when we are not happy with what we are doing.  Let’s start with your job.  Say you really hate the work you do.  Will do something about it!  There is no one standing in your way, but you.  If you have to stay at the job you’re in then find the positive side of your work.  Even if you’re digging a ditch, stop and think about the people you are helping, because of that ditch.

This makes me think of the book The Richest Man in Town Here is a story about a man named Marty that worked at Wal-Mart.   Now I don’t know about you, but that wouldn’t be my dream job, but if it was going to put food on the table I sure wouldn’t have a problem working there.  Marty made the best of this job and even loved it.  He loved it because of his positive attitude toward it.  And the people love Marty, because of his attitude.

It’s not what you have to do for a living that counts, but how you react to your work.  Any work can be fun if you want it to be.  Even being home and taking care of those little curtain climbers and that is one of the hardest job to have.  Being responsible for those little lives day after day!

Thank you stay at home moms, keep up the good work.

4. Living in the present:

What I am saying here is to be fully engaged in what you’re doing and not being tormented by the past or anxious about the future. I know that this can be a little hard to at times, but trust me it is very important.  Let me give you an example that I have experience with in this last year.

My mother who was 87 years old was not doing will; I brought her to live with me.  Do to the fact that I live in a two story house the stairs were just getting to be too much for her.  I had to find another place for her.  I thought I had a good place, but it didn’t work out and she ended up really taking a turn for the worsted until we lost her.  At first I started to blame myself and kept thinking about how I should have done things differently.

Then I realized that I had done the best job I could under the circumstances and by me going over and over it in my head was not going to change things.  What I could do was learn from the situation and if anyone I knew ran into the same situation maybe I could help them with what I had learned.

I was losing the fun and happiness in the present by worrying about the past.  This was not doing me any good or anyone else.  My family was really getting tired of me worrying about something that could not be changed.  It is called putting thing in perspective and moving on. Get my drift?

5. A sense of well being that comes from knowing you can handle whatever life throws at you:

Everyday life can throw something new at you.  You feel like your feet are on solid ground when you can learn to just go with the flow.

The things that have helped me keep my feet on solid ground in the rough times are:

A sense of humor and always remember “The Sun is going to come up tomorrow.” Here is an example of what I am talking about.

About a month ago I was getting my new computer.  Had just gotten it and it wasn’t working just right.  My husband had turned his on and low and behold his wasn’t even working.  We took both computer down to the computer store, they got mine fixed, but his had the mother board go out.  We really didn’t need the expense, but what could you do, but go with it.  We came home and when the computer store call to go pick his up we got into the car and the battery in the car blow up.  I mean it blew up.  Never had that happen before. New experiences can be fun.  Took my car down to get a battery for his and ended up having to drive clear across town to get the new battery.

What can I say, “Life happens.” It was an adventure that day and all you could do is laugh about it and do what you have to do.

Grab hold of that sense of well being, bring out the humor when needed and tackle one thing at a time, so you can enjoy life and look back and laugh about those bad days.

Choose these 5 defining guides to give yourself a happy life. Happy is a chose, so choose to be happy.  Hope this helps.  Please be sure to comment and let me know.

Just follow this link and be The Richest man in Town You’re going to love this story.  Go check it out before it is sold out.

Just me

Debbie Dee

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