A kid that is selfish, demanding and always insensitive to others.
It isn’t a lack of love that does the harm.
It is the substitute of material things instead of genuine love. When a parent tries to give them everything…
- Indulging them with toys to make them happy.
- Tolerating bad behavior, because they don’t want to hurt their little feelings.
- When parents sacrifice everything for the child.
This is giving them the wrong kind of attention…
Kids need to know their inner beauty.
Instead of feeling they are being judged by their looks, or possessions. They need to be taught to celebrate who they are; not forced to put on a mask and ignore their own deepest promptings and truth.
Kids want and need to be valued for their inner qualities, kindness, inspirations and laughter.
This gives them a passion for life.
Here are the 10 signs you’re heading for a catastrophe when it comes to your kids…
Those first 5 years are what really counts. As parents we can be slaughtered if we aren’t careful, since those are the years they are the cutest and hardest to resist…
With those cute little smiles and puppy dog looks.
Take note of these 10 signs before your life turns into an everyday MELTDOWN!
Here we go…
1. A toddler that is throwing tantrums in public and at home. Sure this is going to happen a few times. Every toddler has to try it to see if it works. You have to let them know…
They are not going to traumatize you with this trick.
How do you do that? First of all walk away from the child. Tell them to let you know when they are through. Tantrums are a way for the child to get there way and if you fold you lose.
My oldest daughter tried this once and I got down on the floor and showed her how to really throw a fit. I hollered; kicked my legs and arms, and did some rolling around.
Looked at her and said, “Now if you really have to do this, DO it right. (Needless to say she never tried that again.)
The biggest thing is letting them know this action is not going to get them what they want or that it bothers you.
Walk away….(with a smile on your face)
If you’re in the store drop everything and take them to the car. Let them know that we are going home. And those goodies they were hoping for are going to stay in the store for some other little kid that behaves for their mommy.
2. They are never satisfied with what they have. They always want more and want everything that they see another child have.
What do you do in this situation? You have to stop giving them everything they want or you think they would like. You are trying to buy this kid.
Stop being so stupid, you are being HAD!
Take them to the toy store and go up and down the aisle without buying anything. And then go home. You may have to do this a few times to teach them that when in a store they don’t get THINGS.
By the way…
Birthdays and Christmas are much more special when that is the only time they get the goodies. (You might want to add Valentine day and Easter, have to love those Easter baskets.)
3. They never help out. Toddlers can learn to pick up their toys when through playing with them. You ask them to do little things and they set there like you are talking to yourself. Finally you go do the small task, just so there isn’t a battle.
How do you get them to help with those small tasks? If you start with the picking up the toys (which is a good place to start) and they won’t do it.
Say, “Fine you don’t want to pick your toys up and put them away, mommy will do it and if you want them back you are going to have to do something for me.”
Keep a box or bag around to put the toys in and don’t give them back unless they help you with a task.
If they are having a snack or eating teach them to take their plate to the kitchen counter and later even putting it in the dish washer. Any wrappers from food, etc always go in the trash.
They don’t do it they don’t get the good stuff….
End of story!
4. They have No respect for others and try to control even adults. When it comes to these kids it does not matter if the target is another kid or adult they want control.
They will look an adult straight in the eyes and say, “You can’t tell me what to do.” You ask them to do something and they look again at you saying, (with an attitude), “I don’t have too.” They think everyone should listen to them.
How do you teach them respect and they are not the center of the world? Knock the crap out of them.
Start by letting them know they are not the center of your world. If they need something, teach them patience’s.
“Just a minute I have to finish this.” is a good start.
Do not let them talk to you rudely. Let them know you mean business and will not tolerate any rudeness.
Learn what punishment really gets to them and USE IT.
5. Always embarrassing you in public. Sooner or later every kid is going to embarrass his or her parent, when this is happening all the time they have your number and they know how and when to use it.
This kid is getting the attention they want.
How do you teach them this is not acceptable? You’re in the store and they want something or are ‘Bored’ so they start the embarrassing actions. Take them out of the store and calm them down.
Once they are calm let them know that you are taking them back in the store to apologize to a manger for disrupting his or her store.
They end up being the one that is embarrassed.
6. Your child doesn’t share. If your child is having trouble sharing by the age of 4, you are most likely dealing with a little brat.
How do you teach your child to share? You can start excepting food from them (even if you pretend) when they start feeding themselves. Many kids start doing this at the age of 1. They love trying to give you some of there food.
You give them a hand held treat and sit beside them and before you know it they are offering you a bit.
Tell them, “Thank you for sharing.”
Make sure they get the chance to play with other kids. Whether it is siblings, cousins, or friends watch them play and let them know that they do have to share.
If they refuse take the toy away from them.
Say, “If you can’t share you can set here and watch while Johnny plays with it. When you decide to share you can play again.”
7. Always begging your child to do something. This kind of behavior tells the parent that they really could care less what you want or need done. Many parents will bribe a child to do what they want them to do. For example: If you pick up your toys I’ll give you that treat you want.”
How do you stop begging your child to do something? If they won’t help you don’t help them.
Say for example they want you to help them put a puzzle together or they broke a toy and want you to fix it. When they make this request, look at them and say,
“Sorry when I ask you to pick up your toys you wouldn’t do it, so now mommy can’t help you.”
Remember the helping door swings both ways.
8. When trying to talk to your child they ignore you. No child should ever ignore a parent when they are talking. Will, maybe the first try, but not the second try. What this child is telling you is…
Whatever you have to say is not important.
How do you stop your child from ignore you? Hit them over the head with a book.
Use this against them when they want YOU to listen to them. Look at them and say,
“Sorry I can’t hear you.”
Then let them know that when they can hear you; you are going to be able to hear them.
End of story…walk away.
Next one to speak losses.
9. Your child will not play alone. Before your child reaches the age of 4 they should be playing by themselves. If they won’t play alone it is telling you that they want attention at all times.
Which means they are spoiled…
How do you get them to play alone? Stop making them your entire world.
Give them some toys and show them how to play with them on their own. If they throw a tantrum, let them.
Let them know that you have other things to do and they have to learn to play alone.
End of story…
10.You are always bribing them to do something. You know how this works. Pick up your toys and I’ll give you that candy… When we go to the store I’ll get you that toy you want.
How do you stop the bribing? Just stop it stupid. Your child is controlling you.
Do you want them living with you when they are 40 years old? Trust me they will be unless you give them the money to move out.
Kids have to learn that many things in life don’t come with rewards.
It is like this…either you pick up the toys or I do and they are mine.
Question to ask yourself…
Is your kids running your house or are you?
If you feel like your kid is…
Isn’t it time you do something, because in the end, NOBODY is going to like this child.
I don’t know of a person that likes to be around a spoiled brat.