When you do this you take the chance of losing him sooner or later.
Have you adopted a passive attitude in your relationship?
You know that attitude. Don’t have to worry about the make-up, saying the right things; don’t even have to worry about the sex anymore.
Hey I can pretty much turn into a slob or a bitch if I want too. The ring on my finger says it all – “He is Mine”
Thinking the work is done and you can do your thing without any consequents. I’ve got an eye opener for you ladies.
There is always some bitch out there that has her eyes on him.
You have to water, weed and fertilize that garden sweetie!
If you do your best in your relationship day in and day out showing him the love you’ll be a happier woman and reduce the chance
- He might cheat on you
- That you might end up in divorce court
- That you will screw up your children
Here are the 10 Rules for you lovely ladies to commit to if you want your relationship to last a life time
Be positive, kind, supportive, friendly. Empathetic and compassionate messages to your guy are much better than critical, negative, angry and unfriendly messages.
Tell him that you love him every day. Make time to talk. Have a smile ready for him when he arrives home. Let him know that he is LOVED by your communication.
2. Be Fun
Find a couple of fun things to do every week. Kids can join in once in awhile, but as a couple you do need your adult time alone.
Dinners out or even going to a sports bar and watching your favorite sport. Try your hand at dancing. There are many fun things for couples to do and get involved in. Go have some fun and laughter! After all it is good for the soul and the heart.
Don’t forget to throw in the sex!
3. Find the Truth
During a disagreement, find some truth in what your guy is saying. We all know that they can be a little misguided, but yet there has to be something he is right about.
Let him know that you understand why he might be hurt. This is going to be more affective in the long run. NEVER make him feel you are attacking his beliefs. Guys think different than we do and if you pay attention trust me you can learn plenty. (Just save the laughter for when he isn’t around)
4. Show him affection everyday
Comfort him with your touches, hugs, kisses, holding his hand, and end it with a night of cuddles. With physical contact he is going to feel closer to you, because that is the way a man work.
Remember back to the beginning; isn’t touching what helped bring you together in the beginning? Men crave the affection, so keep it part of your daily routine.
5. Sex is a part of expressing love.
To women romance means love, to men romance means SEX.
Sex is what makes a man content and provides him with his image of masculinity. His self-confidence hinges on love making. By using your body you are showing him your love. It makes him feel like you worship him.
So get the Sex going ladies, he is going to be the most loving caring man and you are going to have a winner in him. He wants to please you through sex.
I have heard many men complain that once the ring is on the finger, sex goes right out the window.
What the hell are you thinking?
Sex is fun and if you don’t have fun making love get some help. You can’t get him to marry you and then expect to keep him if you aren’t putting out. There is always that shadow (other woman) waiting to help him out with this.
6. Be a student wife.
Yes, I know you are wondering what the heck I mean. You are a lover in training.
When it comes to marriage people behave the way they think they should. Doing this you stop listening, and giving feedback. Men do not come with a training manual, so it is up to you to learn and use the feedback that you get from him.
By listening you become a better friend, more responsive, give more support and it puts more romance in your relationship.
You can never graduate of this position if you want to be the best wife you are capable of being.
7. Listen more and talk less.
Ladies I realize that this one is hard. I know that we all like to talk (anyway most of us ladies do, I know I do). You have to learn to be responsive to what he is saying matters most to him.
When he said something is important to him, make it important to you. This can be talking about his work or worrying about taking care of his family. It maybe even loving you in the right way and filling your needs.
He wants to know and feel like he is the greatest husband or father in the world.
That you are proud of him.
8. Let him know what he is doing right.
Come on ladies you like to know what you are doing right, not what you are doing wrong.
He feels the same way. He wants to know that you appreciate him going to work every day. He wants to know that you appreciate the little things he does. Taking the trash out, helping with the kids or mowing the lawn and shoveling the snow. Even if it’s just picking up the dinner or milk on the way home.
Men have to be appreciated.
When you start showing your appreciation, he is going to start appreciating the small and big things you do. Don’t let him down or some floozy lady is going to pick up the slack for you.
Appreciate, appreciate and appreciate some more!!
9. Questions to ask your man.
Am I meeting your needs?
You can’t always know whether you are making him completely happy unless you ask. He is going to be honest and if you are falling down let him know you care and are going to work a little hard.
Now if he said, everything is fine, check with him later to make sure he was being honest. The question can throw them a little the first time.
This question is very important to them, because it shows them how much you love them and want to make their life happier.
10. Let him know what you love and like about him.
Bring out the positive. We all have good traits. Let him know why you fell in love with him. Why you respect him and admire him.
If you feel he is reliable, trustworthy, fun, considerate, good looking or a good father for goodness sake let him know.
Maybe he is great in bed, romantic let him know. All men want to be a great lover!
Many times we look and speak about the negative in a person, but when we turn that around and start talking about the positive the man just gets better.
Don’t you respond better when people refer to your good traits?
Follow these 10 tips and you are going to be the happiest wife in your neighborhood.
So stop the whining and complaining about your man and make him feel like he can walk on water.
He won’t be looking at any other woman in town.
He will have everything that he ever wanted when he gets home at night and feel like the luckiest man alive.
I dare you to take these 10 rules, go change your life and get back to me about how you are the luckiest lady there ever was.
Are you leaving any of these tips out? If so, ‘how is that working for you’? Love to know in the comment box Ladies.
And for you gentlemen is your lady doing a good job or not so good? Yes, guys you can use the box below also and forward this post to that lady of yours. That way she is going to know she better ask you question number 9.